Family


Failure is certain if those on the same side argue amongst themselves.

The Tory party can’t stop arguing over Europe. Don’t they know that a house divided cannot stand.

Biblical.

Widespread but uncommon. Rather formal for everyday speech.


An ambitious mother who aims to excel at work while raising children.

She has two kids and is desperate to get the top job to save to get them into private school – a real alpha mom.

USA. A late 20th century adaptation of ‘alpha male’, which emerged in the 1930s.

Worldwide, but more in the USA than elsewhere.


Confusion or forgetfulness caused by lack of sleep when caring for a new-born.

I put baby Julie’s bottle of milk away in the oven today – must be baby brain.

USA, 20th century.

Worldwide.


The protruding belly of a pregnant woman. Also used to describe the unborn child itself.

Joan doesn’t really want to make it public that she was pregnant but pretty soon her baby bump is going to make it obvious.

Britain, 1980s

Worldwide.


Cockney rhyming slang for sister.

There were five of us at home – three brothers and two blood blisters.

Britain.

Mostly Britain.


Family loyalties are stronger than those to other people.

It was just me and his son in the job interview. I had no chance, blood is thicker than water you know.

Britain. Probably coined by Sir Walter Scott, 1815.

Worldwide.


Slogan of breastfeeding campaign.

I bottle-fed all my kids. I know they say breast is best but they all lived to tell the tale.


Cockney rhyming slang for daughter.

The girls got into trouble but her mother and I still love them – they are our bricks and mortars after all.

Britain.

Mostly Britain.


An imaginary double, humorously referred to in order to explain the uncharacteristic bad behaviour of a normally moral person. Usually used light-heartedly. The expression formed as an allusion to plots in films involving actual evil twins.

Jane’s such a good girl and I took it as read that she would come to the wedding dressed appropriately, but she’s turned up in full goth makeup. At first I thought it must have been her evil twin.

USA, 2004.

Worldwide, but mostly amongst the young and hip.


1 – One’s family. 2 – the bodily stuff we are made of.

1 – We aren’t putting Dad into a home. He is our flesh and blood after all. 2 – It’s so hot in here – almost more than flesh and blood can stand.

Britain, 10th century, from a biblical source.

Worldwide.


Keep quiet. Say nothing.

I’m telling you this in confidence – remember, mums the word.

Britain, 18th century.

Mostly Britain.


Cockney rhyming slang for duchess.

This year will be our silver wedding, the old dutch and me.

Britain.

Mostly Britain.


Colloquial term for a new-born baby.

Jill’s gone into labour. When it comes the new arrival will be her third child.

Britain, 19th century.

Worldwide.


Time spent with a child, spouse or friend in an uninterrupted and attentive way.

I’ve been working 12 hours a day this week and haven’t been home once for the toddler’s bedtime. This weekend I’m going to give them some quality time and take them to the zoo

USA, 20th century.

Worldwide.


A rogue.

He was always up to mischief at school – the real class son of a gun.

Coined in the 1800s, in either the USA or Britain – no one is sure about the origin.

Worldwide, but rather old-fashioned.


The exact likeness.

I could have picked them out as father and son in a football crowd. They were the spitting image of each other.

Britain – date uncertain.

Worldwide.


Get married.

Jane’s been pressing Jim to get married for years. They’re finally tying the knot this weekend.

Britain, 18th century, alluding to a marriage custom that goes back to at least the 13th century.

Worldwide.


Cockney rhyming slang for wife.

Twenty years we’ve been married now, the trouble and strife and myself.

Britain.

Mostly Britain.


Cockney rhyming slang for sick.

Sorry, I won’t be into work today. I’ll feeling Uncle Dick.

Britain.

Mostly Britain.


A derogatory term for a black man who is servile towards white men.

Randy never stands up for us blacks. In the old days we’d have called him an Uncle Tom – these days people call him a coconut (that is, brown on the outside but white on the inside).

USA, 1920s. Derived from the name of the hero in the novel Uncle Tom’s Cabin.

Worldwide, but most common in the USA.


Having been unable to find a long-term romantic partner.

Jane’s so unlucky in love. That’s the third time she’s been engaged only to have it broken off.

Gary Martin is a writer and researcher on the origins of phrases and the creator of the Phrase Finder website. Over the past 26 years more than 700 million of his pages have been downloaded by readers. He is one of the most popular and trusted sources of information on phrases and idioms.

Gary Martin

Writer and researcher on the origins of phrases and the creator of the Phrase Finder website. Over the past 26 years more than 700 million of his pages have been downloaded by readers. He is one of the most popular and trusted sources of information on phrases and idioms.