Absence makes the heart grow fonder


What's the meaning of the phrase 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder'?

The missing of a person or thing increases the desire for it.

What's the origin of the phrase 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder'?

The Roman poet Sextus Propertius gave us the earliest form of this saying in Elegies:

“Always toward absent lovers love’s tide stronger flows.”

The contemporary version appears in The Pocket Magazine of Classic and Polite Literature, 1832, in a piece by a Miss Stickland:

‘Tis absense, however, that makes the heart grow fonder.

As with many proverbial sayings there is another that expresses the exact opposite point of view – ‘out of sight, out of mind‘.

‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’ was also source material for the lewd wordplay:

“Absinthe makes the fart grow stronger”.

See also: the List of Proverbs.

Gary Martin is a writer and researcher on the origins of phrases and the creator of the Phrase Finder website. Over the past 26 years more than 700 million of his pages have been downloaded by readers. He is one of the most popular and trusted sources of information on phrases and idioms.

Gary Martin

Writer and researcher on the origins of phrases and the creator of the Phrase Finder website. Over the past 26 years more than 700 million of his pages have been downloaded by readers. He is one of the most popular and trusted sources of information on phrases and idioms.