Meaning

Absence makes the heart grow fonder

The meaning of the phrase

The missing of a person or thing increases the desire for it.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder

What’s the origin of the phrase ‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’?

The Roman poet Sextus Propertius gave us the earliest form of this saying in Elegies:

“Always toward absent lovers love’s tide stronger flows.”

The contemporary version appears in The Pocket Magazine of Classic and Polite Literature, 1832, in a piece by a Miss Stickland:

‘Tis absense, however, that makes the heart grow fonder.

As with many proverbial sayings there is another that expresses the exact opposite point of view - ‘out of sight, out of mind’.

‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’ was also source material for the lewd wordplay:

“Absinthe makes the fart grow stronger”.

See also: the List of Proverbs.

Is there more to 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder'?

There is no longer version - the proverb is complete as it stands. The thought is far older than the wording: the Roman poet Sextus Propertius wrote 'Always toward absent lovers love's tide stronger flows' in his Elegies, and the familiar English form first appears in print in 1832.

Earliest known source: The Pocket Magazine of Classic and Polite Literature, 1832

Historical trend

“Absence makes the heart grow” in printed material over time

Source: Google Books Ngrams (1800–2020).

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