Posted by Bob on April 03, 2006
In Reply to: To hold one's own posted by Lewis on April 03, 2006
: : What does the saying 'I hold my own' actually mean?? I've heard quite a few different answers, but no one can explain it right!
: "to hold one's own" is an expression for being able to take part in one's own right - to not need to piggy-back on somebody else nor to only take part nominally and fail to compete.
: I can't recall the origin with certainty, but it may be from sailing ships where a weak or inadequate person would not be allowed to hold a rope unassisted - perhaps it may even come from bell-ringing: when I was a kid, my dad would let me take part and like other inexperienced ringers I was not competent at holding my own rope and my father had to hold it with me - to avoid damaging the bell and avoid me being hoisted into the air. a ringer who had received approval at being safe would hold their own rope.
: he or she's "holding their own" means that they do not look out of place through incompetence.
It's an assertion of competence from a person who believes, perhaps falsely, that they need no help. Often said defensively, about oneself, or about another person whose ability is being questioned.