Posted by ESC on October 17, 2004
In Reply to: About love posted by Leslie on October 17, 2004
: When talking about love which is about to end but still procrastinating or which has ended but of which sideeffect is still kickin in, how do you express the state of mind or such a situation in English? Person who is suffereing from a dying love wants to be cut-and-dried, but the result is in fact the other way around. Or, he/she wants to figure out what went wrong in the process of love but the more he/she wants to figure it out, the more confused he/she feels. Is there any word, noun, adjective, or phrase to describe the situation or the state of mind? Could you please give me sentences as examples? Thank you so much for your help!!
: Non Native English Speark
To carry a torch for someone is to still be in love with someone after the relationship has ended. "They have been divorced for a year but he still carries a torch for her."
TO CARRY THE TORCH FOR ONE - "It is the torch of love that is understood in this modern American term, though sometimes no more than the torch of loyalty, for the 'torchbearer' is one who is loud in his praise of a friend. But the torch has long been an emblem of enlightenment and of burning devotion, and, in 1775, Richard Sheridan used the expression, 'The torch of love,' in his epilog to 'The Rivals.'" From "A Hog on Ice" by Charles Earle Funk (1948, Harper & Row, New York).
Prolonging the agony. "It would be better if they had a clean break. But her ex-boyfriend prolongs the agony by calling her all the time."